December 2009
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the dismemberment plan - the ice of boston
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“I love non-fiction, and I am always reading something. I was not wanting or...”
– -via amazon’s customer reviews of joan didion’s the year of magical thinking
nearly word for word my complaints to will on the car ride home from vermont (i’m so happy to find others agree), after finishing this book in one day. billy bought it for me for christmas (because it...
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pinback - concrete sounds
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i had dreams
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01 edward sharpe & the magnetic zeros : home 02 vetiver : the swimming song (loudon wainwright III cover) 03 jamie t : jilly armeen 04 her space holiday: i’ll believe in anything (wolf parade cover) 05 here we go magic : fangela 06 portugal, the man : people say 07 the national : so far around the bend 08 o fracas : and so a scratch...
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so you want to be a writer?
if it doesn’t come bursting out of you in spite of everything, don’t do it. unless it comes unasked out of your heart and your mind and your mouth and your gut, don’t do it. if you have to sit for hours staring at your computer screen or hunched over your typewriter searching for words, don’t do it. if you’re doing it for money or fame, don’t do it. if you’re doing it because you...
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oh,
when i think
of all
the things
that we are
the sum of
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b0st0n train conductors →
this post makes me love the t, in spite of everything
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Joe Biden's Teeth →
“It’s like the whiutest clouds and the strongest mountain had a baby. Spectacular. These are God’s teeth.”
“‘Is Senator Obama ready to lead this nation during a time of such turmoil?’ I asked myself this election season. Joe Biden’s teeth provided the only answer I needed. His teeth provided a luminescent, perfectly aligned reassurance that indeed...
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phantogram - futuristic casket
it is almost a...
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Watchchristycandice:
(jimmy fallon) neil young singing fresh prince
worth sitting through the 30 second hulu ad, i think!
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jump little children - body parts
a boy i was...
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My House →
little things
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Maxim's Interview with Jeff Bridges
Maxim: How often do you get called the Dude in your day to day life?
Jeff Bridges: Often. It's a favorite of my movies. I just love it. I couldn't understand why it wasn't a bigger hit when it first came out. It kind of went under the radar. It happened over in Europe and then it splashed back over here and got a cult following going.
M: Right. Lebowski Fest. We heard you went to one.
JB: I had my Beatles moment there. I got a little band together and played some music to a sea of Dudes.
M: Were they all wearing robes and drinking White Russians?
JB: Sure. There were all different sorts: some Little Lebowski Urban Achievers and a few Jesus there.
M: You never get tired of it?
JB: I rarely watch my movies on the tube, but Lebowski is kind of like The Godfather for me. I get hooked. I think, I'll watch this until he licks the ball... Well, now I'm going to wait for the next scene, then that one.
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“The story I am interested in is about asking what drives a powerful person—what makes them tick? How do they make and then remake themselves? I thought to myself, wouldn’t it be great if—as this piece would be principally composed of clubby dance music—one could experience it in a club setting? Could one bring a ‘story’ and a kind of theater to the disco? Was that possible? If so, wouldn’t that...
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Cora Chiquita, Female Desperado, Runs Amok
“Santa Rosa, N.M., March 12.— The peace officers of this county are looking for Cora Chiquita, known as “Cora the Cowgirl,” who made a sensation here on Friday night by riding up and down the main street, a revolver in each hand, yelling and shooting at everyone whose appearance did not suit her fancy.
Not until the girl, who is known far and wide as “the beautiful devil,” had loped out of...
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“On the night of the summer solstice last year, Nick stayed out with me doing...”
– Jason Neuswanger (March 2009), student of Nicholas Hughes (via the University of Alaska’s School of Fisheries and Ocean Sciences’ memorial page)
there is something very satisying about investigating people who have passed away. i always feel strangely close to them, compelled to know...
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credo
chessieann:
i believe there is something else
entirely going on but no single person can ever know it, so we fall in love.
it could also be true that what we use everyday to open cans was something much nobler, that we’ll never recognize.
i believe the woman sleeping beside me doesn’t care about what’s going on outside, and her body is warm with trust which is a great beginning.
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jenny owen youngs - hot in herre (nelly cover)
my...
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the robot ate me - the tourist
“the world...
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Maria Kalman and the Pursuit of Happiness (NYTimes... →
so good. even though i am hardly pro-proactive.
via chessie
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npr, all things considered, 1997
KEN DOKA: ... I think the structure that Rabbi Grollman has spoken about -- the need to mark various points in the loss, whether in the rituals that he described or in anniversary masses, or in certain kinds of marks, or even individual rituals that people use in their own homes and in their own families -- can be very helpful and very therapeutic. And we shouldn't lose those pieces.
LINDA WERTHEIMER: Like what?
KEN DOKA: Oh, for instance in some homes maybe a candle is lighted at a holiday to mark the sense of the person's presence; to mark the ongoing relationship. In other families, there may be a ritual where a gift is given in the name of someone who's died as a way of remembering their impact and their legacy.
And all of those are good examples of private little rituals that I think preserve both the memory and the thoughts and allow the family to mark that person's presence and absence in their lives at this moment.
PHYLLIS SILVERMAN: As long as we have the idea and the notion that we should somehow let go of the past, then it's very hard to justify and to create rituals when you feel that you're being criticized by some of the ways in which -- by the larger society in terms of how they see grief and how they expect it to be time-limited and "don't you think it's time you were over it, already?" -- "don't talk about him, it will only upset you" -- "she's been dead for a long time, why don't you put the picture away?" -- typical kind of comments you hear from people from -- that they -- this is what they hear from their friends.
And so, I think we have to keep this in mind as we begin to understand the need for rituals and the value of rituals, that in part people develop these if they don't come from the tradition that Rabbi Grollman and I come from, where it's in some way prescribed for us. We don't have to work as hard.
But I think that if they have the sense that they're doing something wrong, they're not going to do it. It's a long way of coming around to the point. I would just like to make one other point about the -- what we lose and how we see grief.
If we talk about grief as an emotional experience, then I think we're not helping people enough, because in fact it's not only the feelings that are causing the stress, but it's also the fact that people have lost many different things with the death. And often they lose not only the person, but they lose their self that was in relationship to that person. And in a sense, the self that they knew is lost.
And so, there are many kinds of losses. And in that context, you lose a way of life. And so, you're really not only talking about dealing with feelings, but in this transition, you're talking about how do I find a new way of living in the world, given what I've just lost.
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freelance whales - generator^first floor